Getting engaged is one of the most exciting times in a girl's life. I say "girl" not "guy" because usually the guy knows when its going to happen, but for the girl, it's a surprise. Let the wedding planning begin! We start coordinating and organizing at least a year in advance. Within this year, we are stressed out for many things: location, vendors, guest list, entertainment, food, invitations, etc,. Although a year can pass by so quickly, it is actually a pretty long time. Within this time, many things may change including trend, your style, your preferences and so on. I know that almost every girl who plans their own wedding feels they can plan anyone's wedding thereafter; but when stress is high and our minds are inconsistent, it is truly difficult. This is where Professional Wedding Planners come in to play, to help ease your stress. However, being in the Wedding industry for almost 14 years, I learned a thing or two from my brides and vendors. Here are 10 simple things to do or keep in mind that will make the Wedding planning process a little smoother:
1. Do research on your Vendors. See various works they've done before you chose them. Do not expect them to create something that is not in their style. Every vendor has a look about them, find one that coincides with yours. And TRUST them. You chose them for a reason, so let them do their work. Flowers, food, invitations, photographers, videographers, etc.
2. Do what makes you and your husband-to-be happy. Try not to let the million opinions around you stress or aggravate you. Understand that people want the best for you, it's just a difference in opinion and you ultimately make the decision. Be open minded but logical.
3. Communication is Key. Whether it's with your husband-to-be, your families or your vendors; communication is essential in making sure you are on the same page the entire journey there. It is important that they know, understand and respect your preferences. This includes budgeting.
4. Create a wedding email address. This simple task will make your life so much easier. Emails get lost, communication gets lost. Make sure everything you express to your vendors is in writing. He said she said will not matter when, your flowers don't show up on your wedding.
5. Wedding Dress. This should probably be bullet point number 1! Don't try on 100 dresses. When you find one your heart says YES to, stop looking; you will only confuse yourself further. Wear a dress that screams YOU and hopefully 10/20 years from now, you won't regret. Most importantly, be comfortable!
6. Makeup & Hair. I can speak volumes on this bulletpoint alone. Just like number "1", you must find stylists and artists that are YOUR style. Do not go to someone and ask for something they've never seen before. Chances are, they will struggle with it and so will you. And if you've chosen them, trust them, but it is also important that you communicate your likes and dislikes. Most importantly - please stick to who you are. Do not take risks and try something "new" on your wedding day. Be the BEST version of YOURSELF! Key.
7. Don't do anything you haven't done before. If you've never spray tanned before, don't do it for your wedding. Try in advance and see how you like it first. Don't change your hair color drastically; you don't want to confuse people about your look, you want them to see the best you they've ever seen.
8. Beauty from the inside out. At least the month of your wedding, try getting a lot of sleep, drinking a lot of water, refraining from alcohol, eating healthy and following a good skincare regimen. (I will post skincare advice soon) All of the above will make such a difference on your overall look at your wedding! You will look and feel healthy, have more energy and great skin. And PLEASE do not do any facials within a week of your wedding. Make sure your facials are at least 2 weeks in advance.
9. Plan your day realistically. Always allow spare time in your day. Things will go wrong: your hair stylist/makeup artist may be running behind (very common), your florists may be stuck in traffic, your photographer may want to do your photoshoot at a certain time based on the daylight. So many things may go wrong, but you have to be prepared. If you have scheduled your entire day really tight then you probably need to make some adjustments because this will inevitably create stress on the day of.
10. Enjoy your day! You will not believe how fast the day will go by. After all, it's time to let go and enjoy what you've worked so hard to create. Try to pay attention to everything going on around you and take it all in. In addition, people around you will feed off of your energy, if you're having a good time, they're having a good time! And most importantly, you are getting married to the love of your life! So have fun and make beautiful memories.
If you are following me on Snap, you had a sneak peak of all of the below already ;) For the rest of you, here is a rundown of the event and products from the Hourglass Event yesterday. I do my absolute best to make it to every event I am invited to; it's fun, it's makeup and I get to see my friends! Everyone is so busy with their lifestyle that we never get to hang out, out of work.
Hourglass has been one of my favorite brands for years! They truly have quality products and I don't think they've ever created something I don't love. Their ambient highlighters as you know are one of my favorites ever. The shade Brilliance is in my everyday bag and the trio set I use and abuse on my clients. It is so subtle and beautiful! But let's chat about their new launch: VanishFoundation.
Vanish is a stick foundation created to be used in every way from a concealer to a foundation or even contour. Usually, stick foundations scare me because they're generally thick AND because I have a very oily t-zone...it does not work for me. By surprise, the new Vanish foundation does actually that, VANISH as you blend it - crazy texture and technology. It covers great without the thick texture and blends so beautifully. Their color selection was amazing as well, so you know you will find a shade that works for you. I am in the shade sand.By the way, how chic is the packaging?
They also launched a brush that blends the foundation so beautifully! As you all know (and if you don't already, you should), the tools make all the difference in the world when applying makeup! This brush was created specifically to blend the Vanish foundation effortlessly into your skin. It feels like velvet! Around $45, but well worth it. After all, you are really going to buy it just one time and have it forever! Face brushes need to be quality...eyes? you can get away with even your fingers.
In the goodie bag we got, they also included these 1.5mm gel liners - in blue and brown. I don't know if these are new, but they're new to me. These gel liners are super creamy and smooth but not wet! It is also super thin so you can create a nice wing liner with it. AND it does not move! Unless you use a makeup remover, you can't get it off, so I thought that was great!
The event was fun, they had really cool virtual TV's we get to play around with and saw some of my friends in the industry. The space is beautiful and got to see my friends Patrick Starrr & Jadey Wadey!
The first reaction David and I had when we found out I was pregnant was pure happiness. We couldn't believe it, so I took the test 3 times just to make sure. And each time it came up positive, we both screamed lol. It is our first baby and we were prepared! Well, not quite prepared physically but prepared mentally. We both love children and wanted one as soon as God blessed us with one! Everything definitely went by quick for my husband and I. We got engaged after dating for a year and a half, then 4 months later, we got married. We knew "this is it", so why wait? We couldn't wait to start our life together. A month later, lo behold, I was expecting! We did not hesitate about the timing, not one second. So, safe to say, we were anxious and ready for her!
My pregnancy was AMAZING! It got a little uncomfortable the last few weeks because I just couldn't wait any longer. We could not wait to meet her! My hospital bag was ready on my living room table a month in advance. I just kept thinking...you never know when. Every day, I would take the baby bag, back to her room (because we have 10 people dinners almost every night lol) and would put it back on the table the next day. I mean, I was ready! We even moved to a bigger apartment when I was 9 months. So instead of relaxing, I was packing/unpacking and I did not mind. I felt THAT great.
In the meantime, I am checking in with the doctor every week...no dilation. For the single ladies out there, this means, your baby is not ready to come out! Comes week 40 (final week), still no sign of baby wanting to come out. we decided to wait a week longer (we wouldn't have, except we were convinced my doctor got the date wrong), but even then...no baby. FINALLY at 41 weeks, David and I decided to get induced, by Doctor's recommendation. And that was that, we went in, 24 hours later, came Katherine Elcie Abovian! 6.9lbs, 20.5 in. on May 1 at 4:01pm.
The second she came out, all I thought was, "This is MAGIC!" I could not believe that a human being grew inside my belly and that David and I creating this little angel. I mean, HOW?! I mean, we know how but you know...HOW?! It's pure magic. And my second thought was, "It was you! It was you kicking me, sucking my energy, making me naucious when I didn't feed you...it, was, you." There is NO better feeling in the world. She is thee best accomplishment in my life and nothing will ever compare.
Now, let's rewind for a minute. The closer I got to my due date...the more I was getting freaked out about the delivery. I was asking everyone who has a child what their experience was like. Of course, everyones experience is very different; so that would worry me more. WHICH ONE AM I GOING TO BE?! The girl who sneezes out her baby or the girl who struggles. I initially thought I want a c-section because I was so afraid of the delivery. Until a girlfriend of mine had her baby a few months before me, with a c-section and she said, "Try NOT to get a c-section"...and told me about her horrific experience. No matter how you looked at it, it was scary. I decided to go the natural way (with epidural). Let me tell you, I praise you women who have delivered without the drugs! *praising hands emoji* I am convinced you ladies are built differently.
Everyone advised me about pregnancy and delivery but what they didn't tell me was the aftermath! Maybe they don't want to scare you? or maybe when the baby is born and you see their beautiful face, you forget about everything else? Whatever the case, the parts that scared me most, were the best. Delivery? I didn't feel a single thing! 5 pushes and she was out. I couldn't believe how easy it was, I thought, hey! I can have 5 more! No. Once the drugs subside and you start to get all feeling back...oh, my, God. THE STRUGGLE WAS REAL, FOR REAL. I will not go into the gruesome details, but let me tell you, you throw all shame out the window. Your nurses will be your savior for the next few days you're there. Just research into the possible pains after delivery and read all about it. Or not lol. Let me put it this way, I couldn't walk for at least a week. I was uncomfortable beyond words. Throughout the next few weeks I felt better and better, but until I got there...I thought I was going to die! Ok, Im exaggerating, but you get the point.
Right after birth, I had also decided that I wanted to breast feed. I have to say, the first time is not fun! It's uncomfortable, painful and just down right torture. But this part, you kind of don't care about too much because nurture kicks in and all you are thinking about is feeding your child and making sure she is getting enough food. Put your sleepiness and tiredness aside, the baby needs to eat and you're the only one that can feed her. It is actually the cutest thing in the world watching them learn to latch. It really is their FIRST learning experience in life and you are there to help her. They are so cute! But what I didn't know, was how painful it is in your stomach when you're breastfeeding! Yes, your stomach. Turns out, your uterus is trying to shrink back into its normal size and location in your stomach. When you're physically breast feeding, it sends a message to your uterus and every time the baby latches, your stomach cramps begin; it feels like you are having contractions all over again, every time! You want to fold over and hold your belly but you can't because the baby is physically in the way, eating. This lasted for about a month for me. Fabulous!
I was overproducing milk and although to some this may seem like a good problem to have, it was still a major problem. I had to breastfeed or pump every 1.5 hours (you're supposed to every 2 hours), except I was producing so much milk that if I waited to 2 hours, that meant at that point, my breasts were engorged (hard as a rock and burning like fire) and painful. This also means that I had an alarm on my phone every 1.5 hours, even throughout the night, to wake up and pump! This part was the most torturous of all. By the way, the uterus shrinking happens even when you're pumping. I am LUCKY that my baby would wake up only every 3-4 hours to eat at night for the first 2 weeks and after that, slept a good 8 hours and now 10! lol. Doctor's will tell you to wake up your child every 2 hours to feed them but I never did that with Katherine. When she's hungry, she wakes up and let's me know, then eats and goes back to sleep. Me, on the other hand? Still waking up throughout the night.
The pumping for 1 month and not sleeping will make you delusional. When I announced on SnapChat that I was breastfeeding, I was getting a lot of messages from moms saying, "Good luck! It is the most emotional and hardest experiences!" and I was thinking...Why? I am a strong woman, I can handle anything! Until one day, David brought me the wrong coffee from Starbucks and I started to cry. LOL! I laugh about it now but OH MY GOD, that emotional breast feeding stuff is real!
I had to go back to work a month after I delivered because I had clients booked from a year ago, so I had to stop the milk. I can not pump between clients because I have a client every hour to the hour. However, I was not sad about stopping! You really have to stop your life and do nothing but pump and with my schedule and life, I just couldn't do it. I praise the women who have done this past one month. They do say it gets better after the first few months, but only
if you hang in there lol. I have to say though...the second I was about to turn her on to formula, my heart hurt. I realized that no matter what pain you're going through, they are all worth it. By the way, did I mention that you are also bleeding for the entire month (and then some) after delivery? It is all just one fabulous experience, along with your body trying to physically get back to its original state.
Most importantly, I don't know what I would do without my husband. He has been so understanding, so supportive and so helpful throughout the entire process; physically, mentally and emotionally. He's been an amazing husband and now dad. With the right support, you can get through all of it, at least 50% better. And I cannot thank my mom enough! She would come over and look after Katherine while I slept for at least an hour! By the time I would wake up, my house was clean and there was food on the table. God bless her.
I really tried to keep this blog post short but it was just impossible! I could write a book on this experience lol...as I am sure there are a million. I hope this post did not scare you but helps prepare you for what's to come. You should know that all this is normal and that everyone goes through it and you're not alone. And hey! If you do not go through it and have a much easier time, then even better! I have learned age plays a big part in having a baby and well, I am now 32 :) Not to say that's old, but definitely is not the same as your 20's!
I know I complained a lot, but all put aside - having a baby is the most amazing thing in the world. David and I are obsessed with her beyond words. You think you are happy with your life until one of these little angels come into your life and you wonder why you didn't have them sooner! I am excited every single day for her; her new expressions, her growing out of her clothes, the noises she makes and so much more. I now wake up and go to sleep every day with the biggest smile on my face. They really are heaven sent and I would do this all over again.
People always tell me "you have such beautiful brows!" and I smile and thank them, knowing I spent 20 minutes on them in the morning! It is definitely a pain in the butt but I do feel it transforms my face, or anyones face for that matter. Here, I have created a little video of the process I use to create natural looking but thick eyebrows. It definitely is an art and it will take a couple tries until its perfect! But with due time...you will get there. In this particular video, I have used the Benefit Cosmetics Ka-Brow pomade (with the attached angle brush), the Goof Proof Brow Pencil and Gimmie Brow mascara to lighten up my brows and hold them in place (products listed below). Now, you don't need every product if you are not trying to thicken and fill them up the way I do. If you already have a full set of brows, just use the mascara to hold them in place and groom them. If you are just trying to define, use the pomade and line underneath them like I did. If you have sparse eyebrows, just use the pencil. If you are trying to do it ALL, then follow me :)
It's been another exciting hit with the media, as both products from Elcie Cosmetics, the Foundation and The Glow Enhancer, were listed under the 'Obsessed AF: 5 Beauty Products I Can't Get Enough Of! Brit.Co published the article from one of their beauty writers, Beth Wischnia. It's always so fulfilling to hear great buzz around products that you worked so hard to perfect and bring on to the scene! Thank you to all the amazing media for the continuous support!
With delay, I'd like to introduce you to the new Dandelion cream collection Benefit just launched earlier this month. Adding to one of their original best selling powder blush, Dandelion, they have expanded to a cream blush and a highlighter. Although cream products are best used in the summer because of the dry weather (its more moisturizing than powder, obvi.), I love it for summer as well when trying to achieve that natural glow. When using cream products, try to avoid setting it in with powders because it takes away from that glow effect. However, if you do have oily skin, you can slightly set it in with some loose powder, using a fluffy brush.
Here is the original Dandelion Powder Blush. Perfect for light to medium skin tones, as it is a softer pink vs. a bright pink that generally looks better on darker skins. I love that its build-able. Retails for $29.
And here it is...the Dandelion Dew Cream Blush! Not only is the product beautiful...can we talk about the packaging? The entire collection along with the "dew" collection package is just so adorable. I feel the liquid is a little bit more pigmented than their powder blush, so medium to tan skin tones can definitely benefit from this as well. Best way to use this (in my recommendation) would be with a damp beauty blender. Pump 1 or 2 drops on the back of your hand and use the back of your beauty blender and dab into the apple of your cheeks and blend upward towards your hair line. The key to using cream products, just like anything else, is layering! It sets into a satin-matte finish and retails for $28.
Introducing, Shy Beam Liquid Highlighter...the newest addition to their Beam collection. It was so hard to capture this shade in the right light because its such a light color. And me being the whitest I have ever been!...it's barely showing up on my hand lol. But when put on the face with a fresh base first, it'll make the high points of your cheeks pop with a natural brightness/lift. It has radiance (a subtle glow) but no frost or shimmer. In combination with the Dandelion cream blush...it's a beauty together! Again, I recommend this for lighter to medium skin tones. If you are medium to tan....go for Sun Beam instead. Retails for $26.
We are so proud of our Glow Enhancer from Elcie Cosmetics. It is making headlines everywhere and now, Refinery 29's Summer Must Have? We are thrilled!
In May, MakeUpForever will be launching their new and enhanced Aqua Eyepencils, the Aqua XL. MakeUpForever has teamed up with singer-songwriter Charlie XCX for this new campaign. This new collection comes in 20 different shades from traditional to pops of color. The newly formulated pencils also come in 5 different finishes; matte, diamond, satin, iridescent and metallic. Now that we've gone through the facts, let's get down to the real!
I have been using the MakeUpForever Aqua pencils for years now and I loved it then. Especially 10L, it has seriously been my go-to as a base for gold shadow all over the lid or in the waterline. It is like, the perfect Gold! You can use any colored pencil to blend on the lid as a base, but not all pencils blend well without poking the eye out and the creamier ones generally crease. These MakeUpForever aqua pencils are super creamy, blend well, waterproof and does not crease!
These newly formulated pencils are THAT much more amazing except they now have emollient oils and mango butter for even a more smoother application...umm, yes please! You would think they would smudge because they're so soft, but have no fear my friends, they don't! The new collection has a ton of new beautiful Spring colors along with their traditional shades. Have you noticed how a pop of liner has been trending lately?
Hi, I am Lilit...welcome to my colorful world! I have been a professional makeup artist for 13 years and I am based in Los Angeles, Ca. This is where I blog about all my favorite things, from beauty & fashion to travel & lifestyle. As a beauty educator, I run workshops at my own studio, here in LA. 2015 sees the launch of my own formulation, Elcie Cosmetics. Follow me on my journey...